Hearings Being Moved Constantly

[Random.]

I know I can’t post much detail.
I’m just getting so frustrated and disheartened, every time it seems like something might progress hearings are moved for another however many weeks.
It’s happened countless times now it just seems like there’s never going to be an end, never going to be a resolution.
I keep re reading old messages, listening to recordings, looking at pictures. I have someone in my life that wants to know me in a romantic sense but I’m feeling like I just want the world to swallow me up & just disappear. I can’t bare this anymore, I really wish i never reported him.
How do you cope?

[Lisa]

Hi Random.

I just wanted to show you some support. It must be really difficult for you when things keep getting pushed back and you just want to get it all over with. You have done the right thing by reporting him, the way he treated you was not ok.

I really hope things speed up soon so that you can start to move forward. I know it’s really hard but try and look after yourself and reach out for support as much as you can.

Take care and keep posting to let us know how you are.

Lisa

[Soulsearcher18]

Hi Random
I’m really sorry to hear about this. I don’t know what support you have in place already but accessing whatever support is available to help you to cope with the process can help. You have no control over the system but you can take control of accessing support and learning strategies to help you to cope. I know that can sound incredibly frustrating to hear when you just want it over already- I’ve been there. Still am there to some extent. It can all get so overwhelming and so it can help to access some support to get some reassurance.

If you haven’t got any of this already, some ideas for support are contacting your local domestic abuse service to request a support worker and to see what groups/online courses are available- something like Freedom course. Consider contacting your GP to ask about counselling services- there are some rules around counselling for survivors prior to court but some services offer pre trial counselling and there are other short courses available like mindfulness etc. There are helplines like the National Domestic Abuse Service, Samaritans and Victim Support that you can contact to talk to if you just want to offload. The Mind website also have a really good website with a forum and support ideas too- they also run local services and there may be support in your area. I was checking out one area today and they are running on-line drop in sessions. If this was sexual violence there are also specialist Independent Sexual violence Advisers hopefully you may find more on rapecrisis.org.uk if this is relevant to you- they may also advise of specialist counselling support.

Ultimately though Random and this is just my personal belief as a Survivor- you did the right thing in reporting, for you and for fellow women and girls. At times this may not console you but I assure you that you are standing on the right side.

I hope this helps a little.

Soulsearcher

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