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      Hello Everyone,

      I am new here and wanted to introduce myself. I separated from my partner on the (detail removed by Moderator) and my life will never be the same again. He ended things in the most brutal way possible by turning the tables on me and calling in the police and the local GP (detail removed by Moderator). I am now back on (detail removed by Moderator) and am piecing my life back together with the help of Women’s Aid, the Council and various other authorities. It’ll take a while. We ran a business together and he cut me out the same day he threw me out. He admitted he’d ‘made a plan’ back in (detail removed by Moderator) which seemed bizarre: but then I realised that in (detail removed by Moderator) and tried talking to him about gender based violence and unequal power dynamics. He never got this. Thank you for reading, if anyone does, and I’m glad to be part of the community.

    • #169123
      Main Moderator

      Hi Jango,

      Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing with us. It is good to hear you already have various support in place. I hope it has helped to post about what you have been through to others who understand.

      Do keep posting when you can.

      Best wishes,


      • #169199

        Hi Lisa,

        Thank you very much indeed! I will stay in touch with the forum, yes, and thank you for facilitating this platform.

    • #169147

      Hi Jango,

      Your head must have spun! My ex husband planned ahead (in other ways) and I had no idea as at that time he was playing nice or he would say that he is a victim and that I was abusive towards him!

      I am so sorry he did that to you, what an awful shock… the misogynistic and toxicity still runs strong throughout our society and sadly many men continue to control/abuse and have no intention of changing their behaviour no matter who they hurt… I believe that is why it is so incredibly hard to leave, gain correct support and why some of us have better experiences with police/professionals whilst many others of us on this forum do not receive the support needed.

      Keep us updated
      Hugs ❤️

      • #169200

        Hello HereforHelp,

        Thank you for responding to my post! This resonates and it helps to know that I’m not the only one. It came as a huge shock and in the single face to face discussion we had thereafter in a neutral public space he apologised (the first and only time he had EVER apologised in (detail removed by Moderator) years for anything) for ‘betraying me’ but he said he needed to apologise for the sake of his mental health (by which I presume he meant his conscience). More recently, he has suggested I return to the house and the business to look after it for (detail removed by Moderator). Odd, given he had me forcibly removed.

        I do hope things are better for you now and that feel strong. xx

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