6th February 2016 at 7:58 am #9144Peaceful PigParticipant
Friends old and new! I can finally log in so thought I’d say hi and give you an update.
I had a major wobble towards the end of the court process and needed to take some time off work. I think I’d kept going for so long that I just had to give in and shut down by the end of it. But life now is so much better. Me and the kids can finally relax in our new home, it’s a happy place where we are safe to be ourselves, express our feelings, laugh out loud. The children have a fixed routine of contact with their dad, who still tries to push the boundaries, but I feel so much stronger now it’s court ordered and I can easily ignore him now. It’s like swatting away an annoying fly. It takes a few days to resettle the children after their time with him but I’m lucky in some ways that he’s concentrating his efforts on his new victim though I do really feel for her. There’s nothing I can do or say of course.
I’m starting to build a new life when the children aren’t with me, doing fun things for myself and even feeling brave enough to make a few new friends.
The hardest thing by far is that now I am safe and secure enough to properly work on my childhood abuse, but I’m doing it because unless I deal with that I know I’ll just get more of the same and I’ve lost too much of my life already. I’m very lucky to have found a very kind, specialised counsellor to help me work through it and my ability to care for myself during the process is so much better now. So onwards and upwards! The struggle is worth it.
I wish you all strength with your own struggles towards freedom. I’ll pop in from time to time and I may well pop up in ‘having a bad day’ when the pain gets too much. I’ve missed having you lovely people to vent to when it’s tough. You’ve helped me through many a dark time.
Loads of love, PP x*x
6th February 2016 at 9:56 am #9148White RoseParticipant
I’m really pleased for you. Lovely news! I’m glad the laughing has returned. Take care and enjoy life xx
6th February 2016 at 3:13 pm #9168SerenityParticipant
Hi PP! X*x
6th February 2016 at 3:48 pm #9169Confused123Participant
So nice to hear u sounding strong and things seem to be working well for u, stay strong am pleased for u
7th February 2016 at 9:00 pm #9283lover of no contactParticipant
Delighted for you that you are living a life free from abuse and can view him as a mere annoyance, now that he has lost control over you and he no longer has the power to put you in fear and cause your mind and emotions to be in a mess.
Well done and its always good to hear survivors stories. You were once where a lot of the ladies on now are, so gives hope to all.
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