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      Lionking
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      He’s making me feel awful for wanting to leave. He’s talking about how he’s made mistakes and has anger issues he needs to work on but none of that warrants me leaving or taking his kids.

       

      He acts like he has done nothing of significance. He was always very smart in his abuse, he would criticise me but veil it as him expressing his needs or concerns etc. Several physical instances but never actual hitting or anything that would leave a mark.

      What he doesn’t know is I’m currently collecting evidence to apply for an order against him. I wa hoping to use the threat of it to give him one last chance to leave us peacefully. He will be devastated and so, so angry once that’s done but I feel he has left me with no choice.

      I’m terrified of the next steps.

       

       

       

    • #170188
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Lionking,

      I’m so sorry he’s making you feel this way. The abuse that he has subjected you to does warrant you leaving with the kids. His attempts to minimise and normalise his behaviour and invalidate your experience is a part of that abuse.

      Do you have a safety plan for when he finds out about the order? You could use our Live Chat service to talk this through with a Women’s Aid worker, or contact your local domestic abuse service for this and ongoing support.

      Take care and keep posting,
      Lisa

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