He’s out

[shine bright 2]

The best  years of our lives. happy free yyears. He’s schizophrenic and they are now treating him outside of hospital or prison. We are far away. He can’t get to us…they say he can’t. But he can go to family court then I have to tell it all again. I can’t. I would rather die than go through that. I can’t deal with this.

[maddog]

Oh b****y hell. I am sure that although he may be in the community he won’t be ‘free’. I expect that he will be bound by conditions and he will have an eye kept on him.

He could go to the family court. He may well not and he may be advised not to. Does he have the resources?

Do you have real life support to talk to about your concerns? It may be worth phoning the helpline. Fear is a terrible thing and you need comfort and reassurance.

[KIP.]

Take some deep breaths. Keep repeating to yourself that you are safe. He cannot and will not find you. There is enough evidence of his behaviour and the consequences of his behaviour that no Judge would ever allow him near you. You have agencies helping you and you have given many many statements which you can use for family court should you ever need to. You can get representation and may not even have to go over old ground again, it’s all documented already. Of course you’re going to be anxious but that anxiety will pass and you will move on again and he will fade into the distance x meantime, remind yourself just how far you have come and the strength that it took to get there.

[shine bright 2]

You are right KIP I do have a lot of help. I just can’t help think about all the things he did and the fact that he will be going back to his family when I can’t. I got a interview on (Detail removed by Moderator) bit I cut my arms up now I’m worried about that because I need this chance. Will just have to make sure they don’t see. It has been the best time with him away from us…it’s like he exists again..

[White Rose]

Hi shine bright. You sound strong! Don’t dwell on him focus on yourself and your children and your new life miles away from a man you don’t need to deal with. Others will so that if it ever comes to it.
Sending love and hugs xx

[shine bright 2]

Not feeling strong white Rose. Feel hopeless. Im struggling to find a job, with self harm, making friends, new are area, new schools for kids… knowing he’s just going back to our home town and gonna carry onige as before.
He wasn’t supposed to be out til (Detail removed by Moderator)…but apparently he’s better. .so that’s ok then.
Thanks KIP…u do a good job of keeping me positive. I’m just finding it hard that I have ended up thinking about him again.

[KIP.]

Hey there, it’s all perfectly natural. You have had him shoved in your face again. No wonder you are thinking about him again. It will trigger you but each time you will recover quicker and it will have much less impact on you. It is all going to take time to rebuild a life for you and your kids. He will still be the same miserable person where ever he is. They don’t change. Remember to be very kind to yourself. Be your best friend. I like to think I’m dating myself. I think it’s fun to treat myself the way I’d like to be treated. So be your own best friend in the meantime. Much love ❤️ KIP

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