He’s won again

[Justholdingon]

He knows that I can’t drive and to be where he wants me to be I can’t go to see my family. Now he’s got (detail removed by moderator) so excited about seeing Daddy that I have to say okay.

I have no money to buy xmas food, so we’ll be having pizza for xmas dinner. And he’s made sure that I can never have a family xmas again.

[KIP.]

You do not have to say okay. Teaching your child that they cannot always have what they want builds resilience in them. It also shows your ex that he cannot still control you. It might seem the easiest solution but long term his behaviour won’t change.

[KIP.]

You also have the law on your side, dont let him bully you out of Xmas with your child,

[Justholdingon]

He’s going to take me to court. We had a “cough-cough” gentleman’s agreement about xmas a few years back as the wording about xmas was confusing. Now he’s backtracking, changed his mind and is going to push for full custody again.

I, the evil ex-wife who really wanted to be abused in such a way that years later she still hurts, will probably lose again.

How do I keep going?

[fizzylem]

Think about what your child needs here but it has to work for you also. If there’s no order then you can do it how you like this year hey. He won’t get full custody, he’s just trying to scare you.

If you cant drive and he wants to see his child then he’ll have to collect and drop him back won’t he? Personally, the way I see it is, I have my child all week, get her to school every day, and taxi her where ever she needs to go, so the meet half way thing is riddiculous – his daughter, his time with her, he needs to collect her and drop her back; mum does enough for her already – and way more than half of the care.

It seems to me that if you dont drive then he needs to pick his son up as it’s his son that needs the lift and to see his dad – and dad that wants to see his son yes? x

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