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      Barati
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      Hey – new to the forum and wanted to say hi –

      only (detail removed by moderator) into my husband being removed after (detail removed by moderator) so new and confusing – its been a good help to be able to read some of your experiences and see that all the conflicting emotions I am having are normal

      Long road ahead I think and probably just need to accept there will be good days and bad days

    • #123781
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hey and welcome. Yes it’s a rollercoaster ride to recovery but you will get there. Time and zero contact are my two top tips x meantime contact your local women’s aid for support and take a look at some books. Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven. Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas and Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Evan Stark is another good author. Knowledge Is Power. And be very kind to yourself x self love. Eat well and keep hydrated. It’s a battle so be battle ready x KIP

    • #123783
      Hawthorn
      Participant

      Hi Barati, and welcome😊

      Well done for getting out, and reaching out, it takes so much courage. KIP is right, be battle ready. Educate yourself and give yourself time. We become so conditioned when we live in abuse to be hyper vigilant, reacting to every twitch our abuser makes and trying to anticipate what’s going to happen. Allow yourself the time to process what you’re feeling, then you can respond to to situations rather than reacting. You dont have to jump to attention when he snaps his fingers anymore, you escaped that. But it’s a deeply embedded response and will take time and effort to overcome. Be patient with yourself and keep reaching out for support. It’s a tough road, but few things worth doing in life are easy, and taking your life and power back are the most worthwhile things you will ever do xx

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