Hi,I’m new on here

[Sunflowerrose]

Hi just thought I would introduce myself,I’m new on here,my other half likes to be in charge,I’ve caught him on the laptop on dating site and porn,spends time in one room watching tv while on his phone and I’m in the other room,if he pays for stuff he wants the money back,he goes out while I stay in,I can’t talk on the phone or he listens in or talks so loud I got to put the phone down,I can’t talk to no blokes,he don’t attend family stuff anymore,he is mental abusive,will only do things on his time,then when he decides he wants to bother I’m to tired as I have disability,so he has a face on,Ive missed appointments because he won’t take me ….list goes on.

[AlwaysSorry]

Hi there Sunflowerrose, welcome to the forum.

Beautiful name x

I bet the list does go on and it’s so draining and also terrifying listing all the ways they abuse us isn’t it. I think you’ve done a very good job listing them so far and it’s good you know these are abusive behaviours. The rules apply to only you and not him. I think it would be good if you keep writing out the ways in which he hurts you and how it makes you feel. It’s a good way to keep in touch with yourself about how none of what he does is right and that you are not to blame for it.

Have you spoken to Women’s Aid about what you are going through? You can always call them and it helps hearing someone validate your experience. If you would like to leave him, they can help you make a plan to keep you as safe as possible but they won’t force you into leaving if you aren’t ready.

It’s a really big first step you’ve taken, reaching out on here, so be proud of yourself for that and keep posting x

[Sunflowerrose]

Hi there,thank you for your message alwaysSorry,I have spoken to woman’s aid but they cancelled the first appointment as they had a emergency elsewhere and when I arranged another appointment I went down with flu,will be making another one soon,you are right though it is draining and it kicks off anxiety it also gives me migraines sometimes,he also has a selective memory is what I call it along with bad moods if no one listens to him.thank you for the message.

[HopeLifeJoy]

Hi Sunflowerrose and welcome to the forum
Good of you to have posted, I’m sorry you have to deal with such awful partner, he really is abusive, he is isolating you and he neglects to take care of you, this is abusive behaviour.
I hope you are recovering soon from your flu, to be able to call Women’s Aid again.
Meanwhile can you call your GP? Tell her/him to come see you and insist upon it as you can’t rely on your partner since he is abusive.
Keep posting and recover well. Sending you hugs and good health 💞

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