How can anyone allow themselves to calculate how much money they have contributed to a household and think this allows them to hit, strangle someone, and use intimidation and threats, deny a partner dignity in the bedroom, abuse alcohol as another form of intimidation, finally using financial control to manipulate someone further into submission and think because illness has struck them they still deserve love and attention, forgiveness and respect, and that if they don’t get pampered the partner is obviously a nasty disrespectful unkind person…?
I was stunned tonight at my husband’s sense of entitlement, his expectations and judgement of me, his lack of guilt and his games of gaslighting, his nonsensical conversation arguments, his self pity, lies and paranoia, transforming my words into something they are not, texting accusations and still expecting respect and obedience from me…
When this high sense of entitlement is explained in books on abuse, I see a very vivid example in him, and it just grows with each day passing…it is shocking.