How do I avoid the nightmares?

[Dragonfly]

I don’t sleep very well. My night is literally one big nightmare. If I have a few glasses of wine I can sleep but I wake up feeling rubbish. I don’t want to get into drinking. I’ve tried sleeping tablets and diazepam but I don’t like taking drugs either.

Any tips for a good night’s sleep? It’s been a few months since I got away and it’s getting easier but if only I could stop thinking of it I could sleep better.

I have a very demanding job, also responsible for training people at work. I have my teenage son too. My ‘husband’ is trying to scam every last penny out of me. Altho he was abusive he’s not the abuser I have nightmares about.

I know I need to get into a relaxing night time routine but it’s so difficult for me. I need to be on the ball at work. My son and I are fine but because I don’t sleep my concentration is poor.

Can’t get what he did out of my head or the court case.

Any advice welcome

[Lyng]

I don’t know what type of person you are, but for me, physical activity definitely helps. I took up running and martial arts. And believe me, I am no tiny girl, and I was never very athletic. It helps put the panic in a useful place and releases endorphins. As well I took up something called mind based meditation. I like a group setting but I also do it in a quiet place alone. It sounds corny but all the advice about eating healthy, drinking water, etc., all helps. I also try to do one thing day that would annoy my ex, just because I can. Leave that glass on the edge of the counter, wear that pair of pants he hates, dye your hair or cut it short … you get the picture. Reaffirm every day he is not the boss and never will be again. Good luck and hugs

[Dragonfly]

Hi. Thanks for your reply. It’s quite funny what you say about doing stuff that annoyed him. So far I’ve got all my friends back. If I choose to I can talk to men without fear of upsetting him. I’ve been pillion on a motorbike and booked a holiday 😀😀

Must get into healthy eating again. I like walking so will do some of that tomorrow

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