How to survive

[Nutella]

I can’t take things anymore. I decided a number of months ago that I need to get a divorce from my n**********c husband, unfortunately I can’t start anything until I’ve saved up enough money, which hopefully will happen soon as I am starting a new job soon. Does anyone have any advice or could point me in the direction of an online forum to help me not only survive through all of this until I can file but then also during the whole process because he is going to make everything, and I mean everything, petty, difficult and will probably try to drag it out for as long as possible in order to cost me more money. I cry on almost a nightly basis because I am forced to remain under the same roof as him because I can’t go anywhere else – financially but also because it is close to our daughters school

[swanlake]

That sounds so hard. I’ve found mental health groups soothing and lots of self care, art, gardening, that kind of thing. It’s good to be on this lovely forum.
Congratulations on your new job!

[Nutella]

Thank you Swan,

What mental health group(s) would you recommend? I’ve just finished a counselling course that I referred myself to but it was more around dealing with anxiety rather than techniques in how to not let him get to me when he opens his mouth. It’s not very often I am spoken to, we otherwise live in a perpetual state of the silent treatment, but when he does I’m immediately irritated because more often than not whatever he says is a dig at me in some form, which shows he’s pushed my buttons which he gets satisfaction from. I need something to help me continue ignoring him even when I am spoken “to” but also if I am forced to say something, some phrases that’ll shut him down so he’ll leave me alone

[Better-days]

Hi I could have written your post myself I’m in same position it’s very tough this forum saves me on my worst days. I hope u are ok xx

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