Husbands sick

[Caledonia6]

My husband isn’t well. He’s been off work recently. I’ve done my best between work and childcare (detail removed by Moderator). I’ve offered to take him to get medical attention which he’s refused.
(detail removed by Moderator) he has said I’ve not done enough for him then later on says thanks for the offer of taking him to get medical attention.
He then says I’ve always been there for you when you needed it .
This is true to a degree but he jas also refused to pay for an op I was booked in for
and then backtracked and payed it.
He has taken me to various appointments over the years but has also made me on occasion feel terrible for asking.
How can he make me doubt myself so much ?

[Lisa]

Hi Caledonia6,

Thank you for sharing with us. Abuse can be subtle and confusing which can cause feelings of doubt. It is common for abusive people to move the boundaries when they want so they are in control, it can be very overwhelming to deal with. You have kindly offered to take him to seek medical advice but he has refused, only he can take responsibility for himself and seek medical advice if he needs it.

I hope posting has helped, let us know how you are when you can.

Best wishes,

Lisa

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