This topic contains 6 replies, has 3 voices, and was last updated by  HopeLifeJoy 3 months, 1 week ago.

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  • #85356
     SweetDisposition 
    Participant

    It’s so scary, but it makes me excited too so I’m hoping this is the beginning of better things for me and my family.. the only thing that hurts me is that I’m worried about my daughter who my ex got residency of, I fear he won’t let me see her on weekends as that’s when he want’s to have her (as he works monday to friday) but I’m going to do uni full-time.. I know this is the right step forward for me, but I’m worried he’ll weaponise it

  • #85359
     KIP. 
    Participant

    That’s absolutely fantastic. From what I remember the court order says you have her at the weekends? He has no legal right to keep her so speak to a solicitor and if he refuses to hand her over then ring the police. You need to be strong and stand your ground here. I’m sure you will do great at Uni. Being with an abuser stunts our growth. It’s your time now. Power to you x

  • #85373
     HopeLifeJoy 
    Participant

    Wow what a positive step for yourself, respect, hats down to you! Well done!!this is such a brave step, well done Sweetdisposition!

    Keep the focus only for yourself, keep your concentration on your studies, try to set high very boundaries to protect yourself, push back anything that doesn’t benefit you, don’t let anything else enter your space, this is your time, this will give you your independence.

  • #85374
     HopeLifeJoy 
    Participant

    Can you possibly go no contact to keep your headspace for yourself?

  • #85421
     SweetDisposition 
    Participant

    I’m going to try and have all communication through a third party, I want to take this opportunity as my platform to get the life I want and to better the future for my little ones too – can’t have any distractions through that

  • #85423
     KIP. 
    Participant

    That’s fantastic. We feel empowered when we take back control. Abusers thrive on our misery, it makes them feel good to manipulate and abuse us. When you cut off that outlet for his misery he won’t like it. You’re entitled to protect yourself from his manipulation and emotional abuse. Be firm in your decision. If he continues to try to make direct contact don’t reply. Ring 101 and speak to a domestic abuse officer and report it as harassment. He has no rights to be in your life, if someone can act as a buffer it will speed your recovery and give you more headspace to concentrate on your studies. To get a better life for you and your little ones. Abusers also can’t stand when we better ourselves. They love to stunt our growth and keep us down. Power to you ✊️

  • #85446
     HopeLifeJoy 
    Participant

    Exactly, you don’t need any distractions from him so protect yourself well and good from any direct contact. Well done.
    I am cheering for you, I find impressive how your turned your situation around and regained full power over your own life and your future.
    Pls do follow KIP’s advice to keep yourself safe from any attempts of contact or any disturbances coming from him okay. You go student, enjoy your time 👩‍🎓

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