I begin to realise

[Ayanna]

that my constant brain fog, inability to focus and lack of concentration could be a consequence of the years of having been hit on the head by the ex abuser.

Why do my doctors not realise this and help me and show me what to do? I tell everybody that I was hit on the head countless times every time I see them and they brush over it every time.

[Peaceful Pig]

Hi Ayanna, I sometimes wonder the same, though coincidentally have just been posting about feeling very clear headed for a change! I had my head hit against walls a lot as a child and have self-harmed in this way for years also. I sometimes wonder how many brain cells I’ve damaged along the way. I guess a lot depends upon the force and nature of the injuries, whether they were always the same type of injury and which part of the head was hit. Brain injuries generally have neurological symptoms with particular areas of functioning affected, like speech, movement or memory for instance. Maybe you could specifically request a CT scan or referral to a neurologist if you think it’s needed. The medical profession likes to split people up into different systems and each doctor seems to focus on their own specialism only. This makes no sense to me so I tend to avoid medicine and use holistic treatments instead. For me I would say my brain fog and inability to focus are much more based on anxiety, fear and helplessness. When my ex creeps nearer it returns with a vengeance but as I recover and take back control those symptoms lessen. I know you’re struggling to access it where you are, but I think specialist counselling would make such a difference to you and your symptoms. Maybe you should move to my county and use the organisation I have, I can’t recommend them highly enough! I really hope you find the care you deserve somewhere xx

[Ayanna]

I cannot have counselling. I am a victim of racism and discrimination by our local NHS mental health service.
Yes, moving is an option.
I am looking around already.
My place is so nice, but the darkness from the garden at night scares me to death.
I am also looking at different options now. It is very difficult because my local charities are closed for counselling.
I cannot do CBT, that would unleash hell and I do not want to drop out of work.

I have done some research about my problems. I also suffer from chronic migraine now. It all started towards the end of the relationship, after he had abused me for a few years. I got hit on the head so frequently. They did an MRI last year but that did not show anything. But other tests revealed serious problems. I get help for those now, with little effect.
Maybe it takes another year before they conclude what I already know. Adult health care is a disaster.

[Serenity]

I received a nasty bang on the head too, and I also have brain fog. I have fibromyalgia like you, and brain fog is a symptom, but there is research which suggests that fibromyalgia is linked to abuse in childhood.

I also have optical migraines.

[Nova]

…I too have problems with severe tinnitus due to a inner ear proble…drives me up the wall…especially when mega stressed!
I’m trying alternative therapies like yoga, meditation some apps like, calm, & breath…help me relax when I get mega anxious & thumping headaches….be gentle with yourself …we have been though such trauma & any helpful hints of how to chill.. pass them on!

Hugs x

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