Well done, Better Days,
You’re breaking out of that mould that he is trying to force you to be in- that of a victim.
The things you’re doing are the actions of a true survivor!
We don’t need to act in the role that our abusers want us to be in. We don’t have to be the frightened, disempowered victims that they want us to be. Over time, we can become the strong and amazing individuals that our abusers never allowed us to be ( or that they gradually stole from us).
I agree with HA, you and your boys can reach amazing heights, and be whoever you want to be. You certainly aren’t defined by the twisted view of one miserable, selfish abuser! X