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I’ve maintained No Contact for many years by now. A few days ago I broke it and actually spoke to him. Life has been going through some massive changes and ametaphorical avalanche of bricks has been crashing on to my head and I was at the end of my tether.
It turns out that again he’s been spying on us (detail removed by moderator) I guess it’s better to know what he’s been up to. What a charmer.
He sent me a follow up email full of the usual word salad rubbish. (detail removed by moderator) They can’t and he also hasn’t considered the logistics even if I gave the necessary permission which isn’t going to happen. I think he’s getting far worse as he’s got older. He really makes no sense. He says he thinks of the children Every Day. I expect they’re dark thoughts as he abandoned them years ago and has taken absolutely no interest in their lives.
I so hope I haven’t put the children in danger. Although I’m back on the No Contact wagon, I feel remarkably stupid
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Hello maddog,
It sounds like you’ve been going through a lot lately, potentially feeling vulnerable and susceptible to breaking the no-contact. It’s easier said than done but try not to be too hard on yourself about this, we understand how difficult it can be to persevere with sometimes.
From what you’ve described, this contact with him sounds like reassurance that you’ve done the right thing by excluding him from your life. Perhaps this is one positive to draw from it.
Take care and keep posting,
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Thank you Lisa for your kind comments. I’m thinking about moving to a different part of the country as where I live reminds me so much of bad stuff. I’m not about to run away. I think I haven’t really been all that happy where I am for such a long time. It’ll take a while. Right now, I have to make the house my own and hopefully find some security and safety while I’m still here. There are parts of the country I can barely be in, and perhaps this is one of them.
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I too have broken no contact but for other reasons necessary for moving on. Yet to here anything and not a direct call/email.
I have in past got that long winded unnecessary wording email “word salad “ is appropriate for them.
Sorry you are going through this and that you need to go through this no contact.
You too expect them to have grown up but they don’t change.
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