Once you’ll get full clarity of the situation t.o.t pity for him will end and the realisation will come into focus where no pity should go to him and how you were the wronged party, I do get how you feel I do remember not wanting to get people into trouble and feeling guilty and not wanting to cause problems for them? when I wasn’t seeing it clearly, it was they that were causing the problems and their actions that led to police calls countless times and my almost need of taking out a restraining order, it’s still early but one day you will see it
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