Hi @sweet4 !
I’m facing similar and decided to just put it down for today and consult my domestic abuse support person again tomorrow, alongside with a couple of trusted friends.
My ex and I don’t have a mortgage, but he’s trying to get out of paying his part of the bills in this house where his children are most of the time.
On top of that, I believe he’s financially abusing a vulnerable relative.
And I want to report the financial abuse, but of course, I don’t want it to come across as ‘retaliation’.
So yeah, its sometimes tough to think through and make the best decisions there.
In my case, on one hand, safeguarding that vulnerable relative is no longer my responsibility. On the other hand, its a vulnerable relative and by principle, I should be acting on that.
However the consequences for me may be great because it wouldn’t take my ex very long to figure out who made the report.
So if I do it, it might need to be in coordination with a non-mol and/or occupation order… because his wrath will be great. It would put his new job at risk, etc. And is that ultimately the outcome that I’d like?
Its a lot to weigh and balance xX.