I have a date (removed by moderator)

[betterdays]

With a guy I’ve known yrs. I know all about him so I’ve no need to worry hes quiet laid back the opposite of my ex. Thing is I’m thinking what would my ex think? I’ve give him chances x

[Healthyarchive]

Woohoooo!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have fun, take it with a pinch of salt, just have a good time thats my advice. X*X (it will drive your ex nuts!)

[betterdays]

Hi healthy archive I know him he’s a good reputation. I don’t think my ex would bother x

[brokendreams]

Wowza!! Great news, just enjoy yourself, you deserve it x*x

[Healthyarchive]

Try not to take it too seriously Betterdays, do you think you are ready to get involved with someone else at the moment? Most of the DV books say stay away from men for a while, while you sort yourself out. It might screw your head up a bit if you get emotionally involved with someone at the moment.

[betterdays]

It’s just a meal out x

[Healthyarchive]

Have a great time X*X

[Falling Skys]

Hi bd

Enjoy it meal out and what will be will be.

Think you are very brave.

FS xx

[Confused123]

Hey Hun

Go for it, even if its just for the experience of been around other guys, ii think just been around other guys is eye opener of who we were with and how some guys can have red flags and some well are just actually decent

[Healthyarchive]

It should lift you up, make you feel attractive and make you feel good. None of this is a bad thing. You have been made to feel like nothing this will give you a different perspective. Let us all know how it goes. X*X

[betterdays]

Yes I will healthy archive. I’ve known him years so that helps. X

[SaharaD]

From my experience and through following your story, please be careful.

The word “date” holds all sorts of expectations, assumptions and connotations for you but also for him.

My opinion is that you are still vulnerable. Most DV/DA specialists recommend waiting two years before dating. I made it close to that time and spent a lot of time working on myself and my life.

You will notice things on this date. How he behaves and how you feel. There may be triggers and anxiety. You may have already started comparing him to you ex.

They say you never know someone until you get into a relationship with, live with or have children with them.

Enjoy the meal but be cautious and if necessary just tell him you are unavailable. Don’t allow him to rescue you. It’s probably not a good idea to be codependent or emotional bond at this stage as nice as he seems. It won’t be good long term for your self esteem to seek support only from one person.

[Serenity]

How was it, Better Days?

[betterdays]

Hi He were nice enough but isn’t for me I said I dbt want to see him again x

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