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Yep. I’ve been googling and there are some crackers but I need to remain professional. I can play around with that but I like the word factual. It’s a parting shot would be good to reference the lies already told.
‘As you are unable to be truthful. I won’t be responding to your correspondence’
Like this quote. A liars worst enemy is someone with a good memory.
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Also I would like to make reference that it is not I who is under serious criminal investigation xx too much??
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Please be careful of the word Fact. I think Evidence Based is a more helpful alternative. You can’t answer allegations unless there is evidence to back them up. I love that Socrates quote!
The truth is the first casualty of war. Your ex’s reality is only going to be false, based on emotion, not evidence.
You could say something along the lines of: This is not my reality and there is no evidence to back up this allegation
It is for you to show, not tell. You can do it!
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My ex kept posting terrible stuff about me on social media. I ended up posting one thing on my wall, denying his allegations, stating that there was no factual basis for them and that he had been convicted of assaulting me. I said I would make no further comment.
I think it’s important just to stick to the facts, not say anything that could be construed as libellous or be drawn into a slanging match, no matter how much you might want to!!
I thought long and hard about saying anything at all, but got sick of him defaming me!!
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I have found one of the difficult aspects is sitting on my hands, waiting for my turn and keeping my mouth shut – if you knew me in person you would understand compeltely how much of a challege this has been when I hear what comes out of his mouth or read what’s in his papers lol. Really have found though that no response at all to BS has been best for me – no acknowledgement – on the two occassions I have responded, eventually, it was because I felt if I didn’t this could be percieved as negative on my behalf, so I didnt give him what he asked, rather I did only what was required for my benefit – to help my case – a*s covered basically – bet this infuriated him as it meant he couldn’t say I have ignored his PR x
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Hmm… no response can look like an admission of wrong doing! Depends on the situation, I think. I know some one who was advised to just say “I have not done anything wrong.” The person concerned did say it but changed it to “unlike my accuser I have not done anything wrong”. It sounded quite powerful when the person had to repeat it several times during which they were under scrutiny.
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How about: “I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts on this matter.” It’s positive yet at the same time says that you are not going to be drawn in any further. It’s a sentence you can trot out again and again, and will almost certainly infuriate him as there is nothing he can reply with that doesn’t make him out to be playing power-control games, which of course he is! Abusers, in my experience, hate it when we return positive comments back to them and so refuse to be drawn into their games.
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