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When the time is right you will do it. Have faith!
I honestly thought I would never leave but after over a decade I’ve left recently. As hard as it is It was so right and a long time coming.
Read books listen to podcasts. Reach out to your local Da service? Family? Friends? Sending strength to you.
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Hazy days I hope you’re ok. Like you iv been on this forum a long time. T too am also at the point of needing to leave its sooo hard.
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Hello Better-days, thankyou for your reply. I’m back here after a bit of time away. I’m always back here when things are not right. But I’m doing OK, best I can thankyou. I hope your doing OK too? Your right! it is soo hard isn’t it! feeling stuck in it and reading here over time, how others are freeing from their situations. I always wonder…? Is it down to their having lots of support of good family and very good friends? out in the real world. That’s half the battle I think. I hope you have that? Take good care of you.
Hazydays💞
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Hey @hazy-days Im still here too been here so long. Some days it feels like you will never get free other days you feel like yeah im gonna do this. Your head is a mess with all the how when why where as well as all the abuse he dishes out so give yourself a break sweetie allow your brain to rest and know that some day some how you will get the peace you deserve. Just keep believing it will happen you have got to trust that fact it will happen but only when you are ready. We are all here with you sweetie i promise you are not alone. X
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Please do it ladies. One day you will suddenly get a strength you have no idea that you still have. These people either will not or can not change. We ask them to care about us, we ask them to change, we try and change ourselves because they haven’t changed. Then the cycle continues.
I never thought I’d manage to end it. It took a long time and it hasn’t been easy.  I’m only a few months clear. I’ve no idea if I will ever be the same again but there is one thing that is absolutely clear…. I have peace and the chance for a better future. It’s absolutely worth it.xx
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Hi Happybelle, please can you tell us your what your escape route was? Were there many people there to support you getting out? Your describing the life you had is relatable here and It’s good to read you have your peace now, I hope you have real happiness too Happybelle, now or in the near future. Best wishes to you.
Hazydays💞
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Hi Hazydayz – I had some extremely persistent friends around me which was incredible. Talking with them over time, like several years, one by one it emerged that many of them had been through alot of difficulties in their relationships and they helped to pick up on the things  what I would share and identified when my own challenges were escalating. One of them had contact with the police to report on my behalf. By this time I was experiencing increasing aggression from my partner. Ultimately I made the call to them myself and he was arrested and removed from my home. Fortunately I have my own place which is mine so granted it has logistically been easier to end things. Emotionally it has not been easy at all. The moment  I finally called the police  I had been in such a position that I had virtually lost bladder control through the stresses of confrontations and I decided this is it. I will not take one more day of this. I am lucky that  family members have taken it in turns to move in for  various chunks of time and I am in the process of relocating completely away. Appreciate that not everyone has support networks and housing is often a challenge and I’m extremely thankful for the incredible speed that the police responded and for all the ongoing support from my nearest and dearest.
im still sad about it, I still worry about him and if he’s ok which feels nuts to me as he was an awful person to me. All of it is worth it as I can sit at home of an evening without a racing heart, without wondering when the next argument is coming. Knowing that nobody is going to wake me in the night for an argument or take my car or use my bank cards  or ruin my next day at work. It is all absolutely worth it x
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