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    • #116243
      KIP.
      Participant

      To realise that you are everything without them, they are nothing without you. I want you all to have a fulfilling life, full of happiness and adventure. Don’t make the mistakes I made. Things will never change and round and round you go on the cycle of abuse until decades pass. The longer you stay the more damage is done to you, your children, your mental health, your family and friends, your community, your working life and even the economy. Do one thing really nice for yourself today and recognise your worth. Much love and stay safe 💕 take every hand that’s offered 🖐 x one day you will offer someone that hand x

    • #116245
      freedomfries01
      Participant

      That’s really lovely kip and I share your sentiments. I think people dont realise the damage to their children. One of my children is acting like an abuser because they’ve seen me give in to their dad’s outrageous demands. Even though I try to be a good parent and no means no they’ve seen that their dad gets what he wants and me saying it’s just easier to let him have it than all the aggro and now I’ve ruined my child. Thank you for this x

    • #116246
      KIP.
      Participant

      You haven’t ruined your child and it’s never too late to set boundaries with them. Even if that means losing touch like I’ve done with my adult son. At least he knows there acre consequences to abuse x teaching them the ‘no’ word is actually building resilience for life when there will me many times they’re told no.

    • #116248
      iliketea
      Participant

      @KIP thank you, you’re so kind and thoughtful and helpful. xx

    • #116258
      Wateringcan
      Participant

      Really lovely xx

    • #116259
      Weepingwillow
      Participant

      Thank you 💕 xx

    • #116261
      Same-again
      Participant

      Oh sweetheart. I want the same.

      (Detail removed by moderator).  x*x

    • #116266
      freedomfries01
      Participant

      My child’s still young and we’re getting help from a family worker. Still early stages but I’m doing the gateway programme 1 to 1 with her as well.


      @same-again
      you’ve just got to keep those dark thoughts in the light. Have you spoken to a health professional about these feelings? I find talking openly to a dr I trust helps me through the black times. We all deserve the good times but be open and honest to a dr about your thoughts. It’s hard work and it’s scary but we can do it 💙

    • #116276
      KIP.
      Participant

      We are here for you same-again. I once felt like you but there is hope and help. I used the Samaritans and the national domestic abuse helpline to talk to ladies who understood and could listen. You’re not alone 💕

    • #116277
      KIP.
      Participant

      Keep going freedomfries baby steps in the right direction 💕

    • #116280
      gettingtired
      Participant

      Thanks for the continued support KIP and all the other amazing survivors on here 💜

    • #116283
      KIP.
      Participant

      💕

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