How I were in this cloud and bubble for nearly 2 decades. The lies the promises. Be seemed so genuine. Be even built an extension. Bought me tbings now and then. There’s part of me that thinks I’ve got it wrong it can’t be right this word abuse is made up!!!! He used to say we both need to change and he wanted fairness. And how he did respect me… then I think of the abuse and know it’s not right… sorry I’m jumbled again…..X
I don’t think our body lies. If it feels traumatised and we are affected so badly, it’s trying to tell us something.
I was looking at some things around the house today that my ex managed to do, and I was wondering why he did those things: was he having a good moment, or was it just a way of keeping me there, a ploy?
Whatever their motivation, you can hide from the fact that most if the time they were unkind, unhelpful, neglectful, entitled and cruel, and those moments were destroyers.