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      Find-inner-peace
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      Hello everyone,

      Several months ago, I attempted to end my relationship with my partner because he was abusive. I decided to give him a second chance, as he seemed so sorry for what he did. He also has mental issues, but I believe he is working on them. He sees a concealer frequently. However, recently, he has been violent again. He apologises for his behaviour but does it again after a few days. I don’t know if it can be considered physical abuse, but he will slap me with soft or solid objects, sometimes his hand, targeting mainly (detail removed by Moderator). For (detail removed by Moderator), it causes my skin to swell, but it leaves no marks or bruises. Recently, I showed him the redness and the scratch he left on my skin, but he denied it. He claimed that he didn’t do it and that I did it myself. His response confused me. I felt that I was perhaps too sensitive or that I was exaggerating things. I also receive life threats, which I don’t take seriously. I attributed it to his psychological state. I don’t want to let him down, and I really want to help with his mental issues. He tries, but does he tries hard enough? It seems like things are worse now than they were before our first breakup.
      I want to be fair, he is not all the time evil.

      I feel the need to write cause sometime I forgot the abuses. I can’t explain why.

      Thanks for reading.

       

       

    • #170201
      Find-inner-peace
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    • #170258
      Karisqq
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      I think the think is that if you feel like it doesn’t seem right, it doesn’t. Do you feel right about this relationship? Do you think it’s reasonable ? It takes time to decide whether a relationship is suitable. Safety is important so if you ever struggle with feeling safe, you may need to consider seeking help. It doesn’t matter whether you’re “too sensitive” or anything, a relationship should grant both of you happiness and safety, or occasionally maybe sb to rely on. So if you don’t feel happy and safe with the relationship you’re entitled to leave. It doesn’t mean to put all the blame to your partner , it’s just things don’t work out, and it’s not suitable. Sending you courage and strength to decide what you want and strive for what you need x

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