Hi Cakepops,
Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Your child also has a right to set their own boundaries around contact- as you mentioned this has previously caused them some distress. As children get older they can make their own decisions around contact with a non resident parent and what feels best for them.
The Coram Children’s Legal Centre provide free legal resources with advice and information on all aspects of family, child and education law, including relationship breakdown; parental disputes, duties of children’s services; child protection. They can be contacted on 0300 330 5480 (10am-4pm, Mon-Fri) and through their webchat service (8:30am-5:30pm Mon-Fri)
Best Wishes
Lisa