inner child

[swanlake]

I’ve started reading today about inner child work. It’s possible that I’ve read this kind of thing before but it’s good to read it again and keep ‘doing the work’ as they say to recover from childhood abuse.
It would be good to hear if others have done the same thing or might like to try it.

[browneyedmum]

I did inner child work a long time ago. I found it a good method for what my needs were then in reconciling things that had happened in my childhood and looking to myself to become my own parent, sorta speak, to give myself the love I didn’t receive then.

For myself as well, it has translated to me … more or less ‘re-scripting’ my children’s experiences by being the mother I never had and always wanted. Keeping them safe. Letting them know how much I love them and how much I respect their opinions and autonomy.

If folks are still using that approach with success… well, its certainly stood the test of time!

[Lostnalone]

Swanlake I wil look at this thanks luv. Hope ur well.xxxx

[nbumblebee]

I really struggle with it I cant seem to reach her. My therapist has tried so many different times and weve tried meditation emdr and other things and no i have no luck Its so hard to pinpoint why. Id be interested to hear if anyone else struggles and how you overcome this. X

[swanlake]

Thank you for all replies. I’m sorry to hear this nbumblebee.
As well as anger, something else that has come up for me in counselling is possible dissociation. I just don’t remember much of my childhood and only have some memories of abusive times. Perhaps a lack of memories is a barrier to inner child work? This is something that I will explore with my counsellor.

[swanlake]

I’m hoping that even with so few memories, I can heal the wounded inner child somehow. I’d forgotten that I’d written this message so it’s good to be reminded of more things to bring up in counselling. It’s intense but I’m lucky to have support.

[wildgeese]

Something I tried which may help is Internal Family Systems. It looks at the different parts of a person, which are like an internal family. Different parts get activated at different times and by befriending all the parts it’s possible to start accessing the true self again. This can be a way of getting in touch with your deeply hurt inner child. It worked to a certain extent for me. But like everything it requires discipline and patience!

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