Hi Ariel
Your instincts are the best protection you have, believe them. When you get a sense that tension is building, believe yourself and act on it.
Too often we have been told to ignore our protective instincts, and come to harm as a result. Instincts are essential to our survival.
What you say is overthinking or doubting, etc., is a direct result of your concerns, doubts, anxieties being minimised, ignored or turned against you.
The ‘overthinking every detail’ is part of your alarm system telling you that you are at risk, and your brain working fast to find a way to be safe. These alarms and instincts are your key survival tools. Do not ignore them.
‘Happily ever after…’ really is a fairy tale, but, yes, I know women who have experienced years of awfully abusive relationships, and moved on to be happy in a non-abusive relationships, and we do get posts on here from time to time of women who got distance from their abuser, and recovered and now resettled and happy.
warmest wishes
ts