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      I just woke up- to- It’s not just his abuse! I revisited someone yesterday that I deliberately took time away from, I needed to! I knew it! This person has affected my life in an unchangeable way. A serious amount of negative experience attached to this person! Because of what happened to me a long time ago and not so long ago. Actually, it’s all really ongoing still. Trouble is there’s nothing I can do a out it, if I want to maintain relationships with very close family members, that have been affected also, I believe, They appear as if theyre not? Or that they haven’t woken up to it? Yet! Maybe they have? But don’t show any signs they’ve been affected? are affected? Maybe they know from way back that they were affected and still feel it? Maybe they don’t want to see it? Or feel it? I know this person carries negative emotions inside, stuff from their very early life, and I understand and have empathy, sympathy! But, what about what negative impact that has had on me? Others? Through no fault of our own! There is a lot we don’t know/don’t see, when we meet and become involved/entan gled with people who are going to impact on us eventually. Impact on our mental health. I know now, I shouldn’t have gone back, shouldn’t have seen this person I WAS after all trying to protect myself from anymore? When I blocked that person from my life for the time that I did. Is it that these sort of people cause us to somehow? End up with abusers?

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      Hello Hazydayz,

      I just wanted to show some support here. It can be incredibly frustrating when those around us are not able to recognise abusive dynamics or may even normalise abusive behaviour. It can be really isolating.

      Thank you for sharing this, keep posting.


    • #143625

      Thankyou Lisa for the support.

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