Is this abuse?

[Purplebloommm]

I have been speaking to someone for a few week (detail removed by moderator) I went on a date with him and afterward he sent me lengthy messages stating how he felt my reasons behind wanting to wait for sex wasn’t justified and I was judging him based on ex’s and that I mustn’t find him attractive. He said because of this I have made him feel stupid and when I’m ready he would reject me out of principle. I felt like he was trying to make me feel guilty. (detail removed by moderator). The messages were very lengthy and felt too much after a first date. He then ended it by saying to remain friends. I didn’t text him back and he continued to text and the next day asked to meet to talk so I did. Afterward he stopped replying to my texts and I’m wondering if this is all part of controlling behaviour? Am I being manipulated?

[Bananaboat]

I’d say those are huge red flags and you’ve had a lucky escape. He doesn’t sound like he cares about your thoughts or feelings. Someone better than him is out there for you xx

[Purplebloommm]

Thankyou I felt they were red flags but because he wasn’t aggressive and he put it to me that he wouldn’t make me stop telling my family ect we’re I was (this was another issue for him that I’m close to family), I wasn’t sure if I was paranoid. I’m confused why he is now ignoring me after sending lots of messages

[Purplebloommm]

Equally this is all after 1 date I didn’t think people tried to control this soon

[Mamabrave]

I don’t think good men play these games, if he is giving you a bad feeling you should stop it while you can.

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