Hope this is the right place to post this…
Yesterday I read about the cycle of abuse for the first time. It just makes sense of everything for me.
My partner is currently (last few days…) being perfectly normal, there were suddenly no rages or controlling behaviour. I couldn’t work out what was going on. Then I found the cycle….
Looks like we’re in the honeymoon/calm phase where he is super nice and understanding – but soon things will start to annoy him and we’ll move into the tension phase – and then the full-on emotional abuse (that’s what it is for me) – before we go back to the honeymoon/calm bit again.
Nothing’s changed since yesterday really – but understanding what’s going on has given me a real strength.