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Ex exhibited this to the extreme from day one. The electrician, male friends, the plumber, the mail man and garbage man. Any male in actual fact – Any – it made me paranoid and I would modify my behaviour for him rather than say deal with your personal issues.
Anything like that last comment would have caused huge arguments and denials anyway.
I left after yrs by fleeing home for safety. I live this calm life of no fighting, screaming and harassing behaviour and no jealousy- worked with counsellor during marriage and others at the time which he did not know about in private.
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It seems to be a running theme that these men are incredibly jealous. My ex would accuse me of being a jealous girlfriend and of not letting him have female friends but would make me feel unconfortable when it came to other men. He would accuse me of wanting sex with men who could provide it more frequently and even make comments of men walking past if he thought I was ‘checking them out’! He’d also loudly point out if men were ‘checking me out’ making me feel paranoid and like I was being ogled. It was so messed up x
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It is a form of control.
My ex was the same .
I only ever slept with him as we were together from a young age, but according to him I’ve slept with around (removed by moderator) people!
His brother, brother in law, his uncle who is the same age as my dad, work colleagues.
Drives me mad.
He’s now saying there are naked pics online of me that I supposedly posted.
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I completely get where you’re coming from here, my ex used to accuse me of fancying/sleeping with the window cleaner/man who fixed my washing machine/ man in corner shop and the list goes on , it wasn’t just men it was my female friends as well so he stopped me seeing them . His jealousy knew no bounds and if we went out I had to walk along looking at the floor in case I dared to look at a passing man/woman. Totally agree it’s control at its worst.
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My ex was like this almost from day one. I didn’t understand then that it wasn’t genuine jealousy. He can’t have really believed I was doing any of the things he accused me of. I hate when we use the word jealous when what we should be using the word controlling. They make us change our behaviour in the hope they’ll stop with the accusations. But it only ever escalates. That’s control in a nutshell.
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