KIP wrote a brilliant post today about the importance of going No Contact (NC).
It truly is the only way that I have managed to survive.
I am aware, though, that No Contact might be made more difficult for women who have been abused, because they are judged as being selfish/ petty/ dramatic/ not thinking of the children, etc. Especially where the abuser manages to pull off a positive public facade.
I have, for example, commented when people have criticised people who ignore their ex-partners. I have asked: but why should someone continue a relationship with someone who is abusive? Then, people have hesitated and replied that, of course, in the case of abuse, it is different. But why assume that someone’s choice to go NC is based upon unhealthy- rather than healthy- motives?
Others’ judgement is a huge stumbling block towards women becoming free. Especially as many women who have suffered abuse are lacking in confidence and looking for validation.