Just need to let it out.

[nbumblebee]

Yep me again. I just need to get something out if thats ok?
I have a funeral (removed by moderator). He wont come because he says i will be too busy with everyone else he will be ignored. Now I dont do family events he has hardly met my family as I have a nasty past with (removed by moderator|)seperate family members. My husband doesnt know i have never trusted him with the truth but he knows i dont get on with some of my my family much and never asks why they upset me so, he doesnt care. (removed by moderator) I will have to come face 2 face with a family member who I should never have to see again. So not only will I have to face him but tben when i return home I will have to face my husband who will be vile as he has been on his own all day. He will definatly expect me to perform in the bedroom as an apology if not he will just get nasty verbally and I often just give in as I dont have the energy to fight. Im dreading it all of it. This is all so hard and Im so fed up and just needed to let it out. Thanks x

[ISOPeace]

It’s always ok to get something out on here!

That does sound horrible. I can imagine it makes you feel really powerless.

Your husband’s reaction/behaviour is such a classic example of somebody who only thinks about himself and has zero empathy for other people.

I wonder whether at the (removed by moderator) you could have a mantra ready to say to yourself when you see that family member. Something like “I may have to see you, but you didn’t break me and I know I can keep myself safe from you now.” Maybe even say it lots and lots of times and just smile if someone’s talking to you while you’re saying it to yourself.

The fact is that you are dealing with an incredibly difficult situation, which you have done nothing to cause. You don’t deserve any of this pain and stress. Sending lots of love xxxx

[nbumblebee]

@isopeace Thank you I will try that.
Dreading it doesnt seem to be a strong enough term to describe how i feel. X

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