It’s good to come on and vent. What he’s doing is just what abusers do when you allow contact. Mess with your head. Imagine a small child caught with their chocolate face and their hand in the cookie jar saying to you, I didn’t eat the cookies. That’s an abuser. Faced with overwhelming evidence they will still deny and if you witness it they will say there’s something wrong with your eyes. It’s a verbal salad and you don’t need it in your life. And yes he will use whatever he can to hurt and control and that includes the children. Anything at all that he knows you care about. I’d encourage you and your children to cease contact. And if he wants contact then he does it through a contact centre or a solicitor. You can also consider a civil non harrassment order for more security. He’s not going to leave you alone until you put enough barriers up and he’s made to x