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    • #136295

      Hi all,

      I had a temporary place set up and whilst he was out I told my children and they didn’t want to come with me.
      They were shocked and upset and concerned for their dad (I get that and know it’s about protecting themselves too)
      I didn’t want to go without them. They feel the same as me I guess despite feeling unhappy this is what they know and the unknown is scary.

      Now I’m feeling I’ll have to go without them to start with so has anyone done this?
      I’m so worried about adding stress and worry to my children, 3 of whom are already struggling with attending school- this is how he got me to stay telling me I would make things harder for them even though I know they are struggling because of how horrible home is and what they’ve experienced.

      Thank you all xx

    • #136296

      Can you have your abuser removed? Have you taken legal advice or spoken to the police?

      • #136301

        This is a very tricky one, I think you need professional advice, would they be safe I guess you’re wondering. Maybe once they saw it works out after leaving they would follow.

    • #136340

      Thank you both, I’ve been given contact info for some legal advice through the National DA helpline.

    • #136360

      Please get legal advice and kick him out. My ex was arrested and removed leaving me and my son in our home to pick up the pieces and have that time and space to recover, he will still try and turn the kids against you but at least you will have the stability of a roof over your head and some security meantime. I understand this isn’t always the safest route but for me to leave and always be looking over my shoulder was too much for my mental health x

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