Hi, yes it’s only recently that I’ve been thinking a lot about happy times before I met my abuser. I think it takes a long time to sort through the horror of abuse and let the happy memories back in. I even think about boyfriends before I met my abuser. I had a couple of lovely kind considerate boyfriends in my life which makes it even more unbelievable that I suffered such horrible abuse when I did have good male role models, just goes to show the depths of control that comes with an abusive relationship. i think of my abuser as just a disgusting ex partner, a con man and a lowlife. Not worthy of being in my life now 👍