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    • #152822

      I am no longer in house in the long run that will be safe. I’m fine and safe for the moment but in long run there is chances of that not being the case.

      I’m looking for additional jobs/ homes now. It’s horrible that I have to move.

      I am getting money to relocate. This money is taking a while and I’m not sure I can actually afford costs going forward due to covid.

      I will see what happens shortly. Things can change instantly I’ve come to realise.

    • #152845
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      One day you will be settled Stronglife, this uncertainty of your future is not forever.

      I had to move lots in the immediate few years after leaving my abusive relationship. These men deliberately make it hard in all aspects for us to move on, I believe because they live in the Cycle of Revenge.

      The Cycle of Revenge is

      Pain – Rage – Retaliation – Revenge

      Their pain is the emotional damage to their ego. “How dare you leave ME!”
      In their minds they are the ones who decide how our relationship goes and when it ends (and restarts!) Once we decide we’re out for good and we mean it then they can’t believe it!

      And so the Cycle of Revenge goes on.

    • #153061

      I have talked about this today. Still moving, not yet though – it will take time on this one but safe now. This house has been safe and stable for some time – first one in a long time. Others were short term and not stable or I had to leave.

      I’m wondering when this will ever end at moment. It’s all so costly

    • #153072

      Hi Stronglife,

      I’m sorry you don’t have much stability at the moment. You’ve done so well getting to this point though. I’ve not long left my ex and was going to try a refuge before my family stepped in. I’m far away from him now which helps, but also feeling very uncertain about the future.

      There have been a lot of good things, people I have met and experiences I never would have had being with him. It got to the point where I never left the house. It’s been really scary but the opportunities I might have now will be exciting I’m sure. Once I get over how numb I’m feeling at the moment.

      Are you not able to apply for council housing? Hope you are feeling ok today.

      All the love to you x*x

    • #153600

      I’m well prepared to go to refuge if need be but don’t need to at moment. I got turned down for moving money and such and things with Covid difficulties making it difficult to move.

      It appears I have not gotten a job but continue looking for suitable work.

      I know things will change shortly. I’m ok for time being but looking to move as soon as I can.

    • #153748

      Council housing was not good for me. I did not get housing for kids at that time.

      I’m going done path of dealing with organisation that leaked it to undo leak.

      This is difficult process. It’s not producing results as yet and I think I will need to ask for a meeting there.


    • #155052

      The costs of new housing/lack of real estate caused by covid is hindering myself.

      There is shortages everywhere, I will have to take a waiting approach at moment and know that there are options only if this get worse which at this stage is unlikely.

    • #155616

      Update- cannot move at this moment unless it is urgent (it’s not) – this is due to factors of cost of living introduced by covid. I am here for a while now unless there is violence here which is unlikely at moment.

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