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    • #146633
      sunshineLollypops
      Participant

      Just wanted to share a few positive things since leaving that I can do with no repercussions:

      • Make noise in the morning!
      • Choose when to be intimate
      • Be late home without having to justify and prove why!
      • Watch tv in peace- actually watch it without constant verbal abuse
      • Honestly leaving an abusive relationship was hard but staying was harder – I was so depressed and slowly died inside.
        Things are not easy now – myself and children are still suffering but there is hope.

    • #146634
      nbumblebee
      Participant

      I love reading these posts they keep me going they keep reminding me on bad days that there is another way and people do get out.
      Thank you enjoy those wins they sound great.
      Id love to be able to sit and have a coffee without worrying when hes home if he sees me sitting down what mood is he in?
      Thats gonna be my dream moment.
      Thank you for posting xxxx

    • #146636
      Auriel
      Participant

      same I love reading them too, really brightens my day up, it’s amazing how such little things most people do naturally are just huge things we get so happy at being able to do and the freedom of being out is like breathing in fresh air everyday, well done, keep thriving 🤗💐🤗

    • #146671
      Bananaboat
      Participant

      • I look forward to weekends and special occasions again, get up when we want and do what we want to
      • I can wear my PJ’s all day if I like
      • I can cook what I like and what I know the kids will eat – no more too spicy!
      • I can sit in silence and actually relax
      • I don’t have to deal with drink & drugs anymore
      • my home is clean and tidy and stays that way
      • I know my bills will be paid and my money is mine
      • I can plan ahead without anxiety of what’s going to ruin it

      We laugh again.x

    • #147231

      My positive things that I can do now that I couldn’t before I left him:
      I can talk to my children whenever I want, we can laugh, we can sing, we can muck about and be silly, we can watch a kids movie, I can buy them whatever I want without getting ‘permission’ or being made to feel guilty about it. I couldn’t even buy them a deodorant without having to justify it – ‘they get too much, they get everything they want!!’ he’d say.
      I was so sick of hearing about the ‘pecking order’ and that he wasn’t going to be any lower on it!
      When I put them to bed he was so jealous of my relationship with them that he would say, why were you so long, what about our ‘quality time’, ‘what did ‘she’ want this time, what have you been talking about all this time?!’ This would be like literally 10 minutes and in the end I would rush to get back down to him and brush the kid off. Well no more – he doesn’t have the right to change my relationships with my children or anyone else. I can speak to who I want, when I want, for as long as I want. In fact I can take as long as I want to do my hair, to get ready for work, to go to the gym, be late home from work, anything I want, YES!

      • #147239
        Bananaboat
        Participant

        Omg yes I had that with the kids – why did it take so long, what about our quality time (as he sat there on his tech ignoring me), I stopped reading to my eldest and singing a special song we had just to please him. You’re so right! x

    • #148049
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      The best moment for me is to be able to go home after work and not sit in my car for hours

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