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3rd August 2016 at 11:01 pm #23875HopespringsParticipant
Is an abuaive man. Not to me. Slightly to my brother sometimes and most definitely to his wife. Knowing all I know about abuae now and abusive men I still cannot think of my dad in the same way. I don’t want to admit it to myself. It’s really difficult.
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4th August 2016 at 9:51 pm #23941LisaMain Moderator
Hi Hope Springs,
Coming to this realisation about your Dad must be incredibly tough. This is certainly something that I imagine many survivor’s can identify with; the more you start to learn about domestic abuse the more you start to recognise it in other relationships, when you may not have previously.
If you can I encourage you to seek some specialist counselling to help you to talk this through, as it is a lot to deal with by yourself.
Keep Posting,
Lisa
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5th August 2016 at 8:36 pm #24017HopespringsParticipant
Thank you Lisa. I’ve tried to access counselling in the past but as I work shifts found it difficult to access but I could try again.
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9th August 2016 at 3:13 am #24347SerenityParticipant
Hi Hope Springs,
It’s awful to realise that our own parents possess traits belonging to perpetrators.
I think it would be good to be guided gently through the process of coming to terms with things with the support of someone such as a counsellor.
Women’s Aid can direct you to local DV counselling and hopefully you can work something out to fit around your shifts.
I end up speaking quite a lot about my family members, as well as my ex, during my counselling sessions. Talking to a counsellor about the various dynamics which have gone on within my family of origin that help me to understand why I put up with my abusive marriage for so long and has helped me to formulate an idea about what a healthy relationship really looks like.
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9th August 2016 at 10:19 am #24366HopespringsParticipant
Thank you. I have a list of counselling services from WA already, but as I can’t commit to a certain day or even time each week I find it difficult to arrange but not impossible so I may try to access again. Another thing is cost. I might try speaking to my GP.
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