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    • #23875
      Hopesprings
      Participant

      Is an abuaive man. Not to me. Slightly to my brother sometimes and most definitely to his wife. Knowing all I know about abuae now and abusive men I still cannot think of my dad in the same way. I don’t want to admit it to myself. It’s really difficult.

    • #23941
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Hope Springs,

      Coming to this realisation about your Dad must be incredibly tough. This is certainly something that I imagine many survivor’s can identify with; the more you start to learn about domestic abuse the more you start to recognise it in other relationships, when you may not have previously.

      If you can I encourage you to seek some specialist counselling to help you to talk this through, as it is a lot to deal with by yourself.

      Keep Posting,

      Lisa

    • #24017
      Hopesprings
      Participant

      Thank you Lisa. I’ve tried to access counselling in the past but as I work shifts found it difficult to access but I could try again.

    • #24347
      Serenity
      Participant

      Hi Hope Springs,

      It’s awful to realise that our own parents possess traits belonging to perpetrators.

      I think it would be good to be guided gently through the process of coming to terms with things with the support of someone such as a counsellor.

      Women’s Aid can direct you to local DV counselling and hopefully you can work something out to fit around your shifts.

      I end up speaking quite a lot about my family members, as well as my ex, during my counselling sessions. Talking to a counsellor about the various dynamics which have gone on within my family of origin that help me to understand why I put up with my abusive marriage for so long and has helped me to formulate an idea about what a healthy relationship really looks like.

    • #24366
      Hopesprings
      Participant

      Thank you. I have a list of counselling services from WA already, but as I can’t commit to a certain day or even time each week I find it difficult to arrange but not impossible so I may try to access again. Another thing is cost. I might try speaking to my GP.

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