Abuser were always a good dad to his son..this used to confuse me as i didnt think it would be possible with them. His son has special needs so he has access as he were divorced. But saying that he once said if he (detail removed by moderator) hes telling his ex he will no longer be taking his son unless his mum pays him to (detail removed by moderator)
I think they just just do what suits them, and the fact that they can be ‘decent dad’ (though I think it could mostly be an act) shows that they have control over their behaviour and they chose to abuse us