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    • #9564

      last night I kept dreaming of my ex, that I wanted to contact him, I woke up and fell back to sleep many times and continued to dream that he was nasty to me . now I feel like I haven’t slept .. I really wish there was medicine to make you forget all the really bad stuff .

    • #9572

      HI Hun

      I think its how your body is processign the abuse,i too have nightmares or dream about ex , try and take it easy it will get better slowly, i have being sleeping early all weeks just to avoid dreams or knowing my sleep willbe distrupted , it does get better

    • #9574

      Dreams are the sub concious way of us proccesing feelings that are hard to cope with I bleieve. I was getting repeated dreams last year night after night of my husband being so nasty to me. even in the times when was being “nicer ” they kept happening, its like my subconcious was telling me how bad it really was, when I tried to minimise or not address it fully, after weeks of abuse I have realised how bad it is, so my subconcious I feel was tryng to alert me of the feelings that needed dealing with

    • #9575

      it seems to be all i can think about even when i am at work.. i just start day dreaming then realise i am at work and the time has just gone but that’s what i needed to hear that it does get better thank you confused123

    • #9576

      the similar thing happened to me godchild , even when he was being nice to me i would dream that i was in lots of distress as he had gone from my life and this was because he would always make be beg to be in his life like i was unworthy of him because he was too good for me.

    • #9578
      mixed-up mum

      I had a dream the other night and for the first time it was in the present – I was up at his house dropping my son off – any times he’s been in my dreams previously its been of times in the past, when we were together, now though I actually dreamt of us apart, as a separated couple, seems my mind is finally processing everything and accepted its over, (although my waking mind accepted that long ago) and I am now a person in my own right.

      I hate him being in my dreams, not that it’s usually ‘nightmares’ I get, but I just don’t want him being a part of my life – even in my dreams – but we can’t control what we dream……

    • #9590

      I have horrible nightmares. Last night I did not sleep at all. I was too scared. During the days I have flashbacks. It is a while now, but this does not go away. Recently these nightmares and flashbacks intensified again. That happened probably because I got a letter from the court.

    • #9605

      Oh dear, it’s upsets me to think of the damage these men have done us. I dreamt about him again last night . I am starting the antidepressants today so I hoping they relax my mind a bit and I don’t dream so much xx

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