My Story – ** months split!

[Chocolateandtea]

Hey guys.

My abusive ex left (detail removed by Moderator) months ago.

He was emotionally, physically and verbally abusive towards me.

I had constant criticism, told im all the usual names we get called, dragged around, kicked, grabbed by the throat ect.

My child witnessed a lot of this mainly his rages.

I could sit here and write paragraph after paragraph but we all have the same story and I’m trying hard not to keep going over it.

I never reported anything as i didnt want to get him in trouble or ruin his life.

For the first (detail removed by Moderator) months i was completely heartbroken, wanted him back(WHY!) , apologised to him!! , was repeatedly told how its all my fault, how he could never get back with me, post seperation abuse was definitely happening and still is!

I’ve spent the last (detail removed by Moderator) months constantly listening to podcasts on abuse, reading just going down a rabbit hole really.

I have PTSD 100% .

Suddenly (detail removed by Moderator) I feel like I’m over it! He rang me up being verbally abusive (detail removed by Moderator) as I’d asked when he was next seeing child(he won’t make set days with me, wants to be in control) n he was so horrible on the phone calling me names ect but I got off the phone and instead of crying I laughed and thought what an angry man u are!

I hope I stay in this mindset and have “moved on” and its not just a blip.

[Lisa]

Hi Chocolateandtea,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing about your experiences.

It sounds like you’ve done a lot of hard work learning about abuse and processing what you went through. I’m glad to hear that you’ve reached a place where his behaviour is having less of an impact on you and hope this continues. Even if there are times when it’s harder to cope, that doesn’t negate the progress that you’ve already made and now know is possible.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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