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<i>So i dont really know where to start but here goes. Ive been married for  lot of years with (detail removed by moderator) children at home and over this time i have now managed to get to a point where i am just numb to his mental abuse. I need to leave but financially its crippling me to even get that far. I work 35 hours a week and although he pays the bills (which he does so he can throw it in my face) im soley responsible for making sure our children have everything they need again i think he does thia so he knows im penniless. I cannot stand it any longer. He works full time and has a fantastic job but drinks ridiculously every night and is just a monster. Everyone who knows us thinks he is the nicest person in the world and i have allowed them to think like this which breaka my heart knowing that the older children just go along with it to keep the peace. My mum died (detail removed by moderator) and i know i should have spoke up and she would have helped me. I dont know why but ive managed to buy an old caravan with miney ive been saving for a long time and come to bed trying to dins ways to find somewhere for it and take my children as hes ruined my credit rating and cannot rent. Im sorry im not really asking anything just needed to speak to someone. Im completly lost and dont know where to turn. </i>

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I’m so sorry that you are in this situation.  It sucks doesn’t it.  I have been advised to phone Womens Aid, use the live chat on here or use the email service on here so that might help you?  I haven’t been brave enough to go there yet.

I am in a similar situation.  I am the one that works but I am also disabled and cannot do much for myself.  My partner takes care of the finances so has my bank card, does the shopping etc.  (detail removed by moderator)  I cannot make phone calls myself due to sever anxiety which he is very aware of.  I have tied emailing gas companies as I don’t know who we have our supply with but I have had no reply from any of them.  I have tried getting him to sort it out but he keeps saying he’ll do it tomorrow.  He knows I’ll be too scared to leave with that over my head.  My Mum also passed away in (detail removed by moderator) and my Dad committed suicide in (detail removed by moderator)  I know if I could talk to any of them, they would help me in so many ways.  I could move in with them until I could find somewhere to go.

I know if you contact Womens Aid, they will be able to help you with getting out and also with housing. Like I said, I haven’t been brave enough yet but the amount of people that have done it and have had amazing help and positive stories is great.

If you can, please reach out to them and get the help you deserve x

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