This topic contains 5 replies, has 2 voices, and was last updated by  KIP. 3 weeks, 2 days ago.

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  • #114686
     Mumma3 
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    Hi there, I’m a mum to 3, 1 child with my ex husband. We have been split for almost (detail removed by Moderator) years, we’ve been through numerous court cases of where he has tried to gain full access of our daughter. She has now turned (detail removed by Moderator) years old and has “decided” she wishes to live with her dad. I’ve faught and faught for years, tried to protect her from his mental abuse and have failed. I now do not know where to turn anymore. I’ve had to let her go for my own mental health so he no longer can use her as a tool against me but now I feel he is in even more control. I havent heard or seen my daughter in (detail removed by Moderator) weeks and with everyday it’s getting harder and harder. Sorry if I’m rambling but I feel it’s getting old news to my very few people I have as support

  • #114687
     KIP. 
    Participant

    Hi, just wondering if there is a contact order in place? Are you in touch via WhatsApp or similar? Is there a member of your family who can visit her and talk to her? What about her siblings? Are they older? Can they help? I had to let my son go for my own mental health. He was older but I just couldn’t cope. I’m hoping he will see just how awful his father is and I’ve left the lines of communication open. Was your daughter showing abusive traits? Is that what you mean about letting go for your own mental health.

  • #114688
     Mumma3 
    Participant

    We have a contact order, we are meant to have (detail removed by Moderator) her siblings are younger. She isn’t abusive but her dad is persistently poisoning her. And mentally abusive towards me. I have no family around me at all. I’ve tried contacting her numerous times. She just now ignores me. Didnt even see us on her birthday. My heart and mind is breaking

  • #114689
     KIP. 
    Participant

    Can you get the police to enforce the contact order?

  • #114690
     KIP. 
    Participant

    Do you have support from your local women’s aid? I’d start by calling them for advice.

  • #114691
     KIP. 
    Participant

    By enforcing the order you can use the legal side so she knows she’s breaking a court order and so is he. It might be good to set boundaries now and report his breaches if you go back to (detail removed by Moderator). Is there a reason why he wants her with him? Benefits? New girlfriend etc. Is it possible he will simply get fed up with having (detail removed by Moderator) year old under his feet?

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