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Does anyone else have nightmares, once you’ve left and are supposed to be free?? I do nearly every night. In them I don’t recognise him, he looks like a man I’ve never seen, and it’s never the same nightmares twice, but I know it’s my ex.
I can only sleep with my light on, so it’s less frightening, when I wake up hysterical.
I know that it’s partly because he used to turn the electricity off a lot, and remove the fuses so I couldn’t turn it back on…it didn’t help living remotely.
It’s so frustrating, as I know that that it’s not the dark that’s frightening but the nightmares, just reliving what he did when it was dark.
I know it’s all over now. I’m safe as I can be, I’ve moved away, I have have neighbors, a panic alarm, a fireproof lockable letterbox (big deal as He liked setting things on fire) and my family close by.
I just really need to sleep and not to dread it and then be exhausted all day. Lavender, hot milk and baths aren’t cutting it x -
On Nina, it sounds like you have been gaslit in the modern age, literally. The 1944 film is on youtube. Your nightmares are recurring. I had recurring nightmares as a teenager and in my 20s. Terrifying. I have had them again more recently in relation to my ex.
Please speak to your gp about this. Speak to Women’s Aid if you haven’t already. Speak to Victim Support as well. You may need specialist help with this. Help is definitely out there. Persist and tap into it.
For me at the moment the sands are shifting all over the place. Today I felt like an old hippy having an epson salt bath because a friend said he thought it may have helped his chickens….
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Dear Nina
Counselling is there when you are ready. I totally understand what you mean by saying it to someone makes it too real!
I think many of us know that feeling, and sealing about it, for me,will then trgger nightmares, but there was definitely a time when the nightmares were at their worst.
Things like you are doing to look after yourself as best you can, like you would after any serious injury. Nurse yourself in any way you see fit to work. Lights on, super cosy bed, comforting bedtime routine, things near the end to reach for when you wake scared.
I would sleep with the tv remote under my pillow, a teddy,a cold round heavy pebble on the floor, anything that beings reality back quickly on waking.
Some medications can help although I would have to take a lot to knock me out sufficiently to stop them.
Take good care of you.
Warmest wishes ts
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