non molestation order , what does that involve?

[Anonymous]

Just after some advice really.
Have been with my husband for decades, two grown up children. Despite the intermittent violent abuse and the more regular/ consistent emotional abuse I have never previously called the police for help
I did so on (removed by moderator) because I honestly thought he was going to kill me ,he was arrested, but I didn’t press charges. His bail conditions are that he has no contact with me for 28 days …thus the clock is ticking if he does actually listen to the bail conditions? To
take out a non mol order out against him do I need to press charges/ would I have to go to court and tell them everything that he has ever done to me to be safer from him? I don’t want to ruin his life or others to think that he is a monster….he is messed up for sure but just because I want to escape (too old for this anymore) I still love him and want him him to be happy…. without me.

[Lisa]

Brokenbutstrong,

As you need to apply to the courts in order to obtain an injunction, it would be useful for you to get some legal advice. A good starting point would be with Domestic Violence Assist (a specialist injunctions service) on 0800 195 8699 (24/7) http://www.dvassist.org.uk/. This is a specialist service for Non-Molestation Orders, Occupation Orders, Prohibited Steps Orders and legal advice regarding injunction orders. They will be able to give you guidance around if and how you can claim legal aid and discuss further options with you.

Take care,

Lisa

[Anonymous]

Hi Lisa
Thanks for the advice will have a think over the weekend x

[Allornothing]

Hi Brokenbutstrong,

Thank you for posting this as I think this is the route I will need to take also. My ex is also on bail conditions and I know the cps are not going to move forward with it as (detail removed by Moderator) so there was no proof, hindsight is a great thing! (detail removed by Moderator). I too am hoping that police involvement will help with the order.

But I have no legal expertise at all and it’s quite frightening even the thought of court, thank you Lisa for providing that information and let’s hope we find a solution.

And well done on taking such a huge step. Xx

[Anonymous]

Hi Allornothing
Yes hindsight is a wonderful thing that that’s failed me over and over again! Good luck with moving forward, I will keep you in the loop ….if I am brave enough to actually try and move forward myself. I certainly feel that I’m on the brink of putting my own safety above his needs? However the idea of standing up in court/or anywhere ,against him is pretty terrifying. Keep in touch
Take care x

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