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      Notrunningaway
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      Hi guys. The father of my child has moved back to the town im living in. He is controlling and stalking me has made me feel isolated and I have no family around. I have had to change my vehicle number of times as he damages the vehicle to stop me from leaving and now I won’t have my vehicle outside my address. I can’t live like this and have reached out to my mums council. They aren’t taking our safety seriously and I need to get out. Any advice on refuge as this is seeming as my only hope

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      Twisted Sister
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      Hi Notrunningaway

      This sounds so scary for you, and its hugely concerning that he’s now come back and is causing such issues, and increased fear and risk to you.

      Have you ever tried the Stalking Helpline? they do understand your situation, and can help with advice around keeping safe and reporting incidents. Lots of women on here understand the way that stalking can deeply affect you also, and it does add an element of additional risk from a perpetrator if they stalk you too.

      Very disappointing to hear that you have not been taken seriously. There are places to go that will take you seriously, and if you look into it I believe that a charge of stalking only requires three incidents, which you probably already have more than, to make an arrest and investigate.

      Do you have safety fully on your house? Like a different door lock to any that he would have previously had access to, some camera at the front and back, door spyhole/s, protection on the letterbox etc. Your local DA service would be able to support you with this, with any necessary court orders, doing safety planning with you, and sourcing a refuge place should you need it and you could ask all you need about any refuge before you go to it.

      Do keep posting for whatever else you need and stay safe.

      warmest wishes

      ts

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