OMG did he just say that?

[Farawayplanet]

Oh my, my ‘husband’ just said to me – while don’t you take some sleeping pills so I can the have sex with you while your sleep?

He has been pestering for sex, all day everyday and it gets very waring. I don’t want it but always give in.

Now I’m worried. I can’t believe he said that.

I am slowly building up a leave fund, but due to this virus thing, work has had to cut hours so there is now less money going in my fund and I can’t see a way out now until I’m back to normal hours.

He truly didn’t see the issue which is very worrying.

[KIP.]

There’s often a grain of truth in what they sAy. Could he have done this before?

[Cecile]

think what he said may be criminal and you need to report this to the police. I think you are at great risk.

[Catjam]

Unfortunately they have no boundaries, we belong to them so they can treat us how they want. I have been kept awake until I give in and have sex and occasionally I have woken up to him having sex with me. They don’t see it as wrong, in fact his favourite line is, I should be grateful he still wants to have sex with me after all these years.
Their minds are so warped they believe they are in the right.

[KIP.]

Yes, I remember being kept awake for hours until I relented. I remember exhausted saying, get it over with then. He would always start early in the morning when I was groggy from sleep too. Eventually I put a lock on my door. Its unbelievable and nothing is off limits. It’s a sense of entitlement they have.

[Newst@rt]

POSSIBLE TRIGGER WARNING
I had to get my ex to agree to my leaving as I needed his permission to (detail removed by moderator), so there was a (detail removed by moderator) when he knew I was planning to leave. As you can imagine, it was pretty awful. One morning he asked if I’d enjoyed him having sex with me the night before when I was sleeping. I knew he hadn’t, but then I later found some porn he’d been watching on his computer where the woman had been asleep. Another time after this he started touching me so I pretended to be asleep to get him to give up, but he didn’t and I could tell it made him more excited. Wow – I’ve just remembered this and it’s the first time I’ve told anyone. I don’t know what it all means, I know he started watching a lot more porn and joined dating websites when he knew I was leaving (apparently because he’d lost his confidence, and at the time I felt sorry for him!). I wanted to share my experience because there are weird similarities. I guess it continues to be about control and domination… Please think about what you can do to stay safe x

[Farawayplanet]

Thankyou all and I’m still shocked today at what he said. Thankfully he’s on a long shift today (though it doesn’t stop the harresment via text) so I have some space. He wants me to see a sex therapist as I’m the one with the problem according to him. I don’t know where he thinks the money is coming from to pay for the therapist! Just going along with it at the moment, there is nothing wrong with me. It’s him. I don’t love him. I need to decide when to tell him it’s over. The list is far too long now. I need to keep me and my boy safe.

[hop]

You’re so right there’s nothing wrong with you it’s him, all him! My ex used to have sex with me when I was asleep it’s creepy and gross. Up until this point I thought he just did it because it was easier than getting a yes. They actually get off and you being unconscious? That’s f****d me up knowing that!
I’m so sorry you can’t save the money you need quick enough. If he’s said that to you….he sounds dangerous stay safe xx

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