Hell it’s boring! I’ve subscribed to a website and it feels like a roller coaster. I’ve spoken to a few men and met a few. I’m well aware that it’s a viper’s nest.
I’ve had some good conversations and nothing beyond that, apart from one. After only a few weeks the red flags were flying thick and fast. He held my hand as though he was dragging a shopping trolley. His behaviour was stalky. When I reported him to the police and they did the DASH form, it was really difficult, because I really didn’t know him, and also he’d lied, which I found out later.
It was good to have consensual sex for the first time in decades though I doubt it would have lasted.
In a way, going through the journey of abuse has been a good thing. We can’t unsee. I’m glad that my radar is working. I just didn’t expect that waste of DNA to try to kill me when I said No.