Our LIFE

[Wants To Help]

We only have one life, how are you living yours?

Is it…

Living In Fear Everyday?

or

Loving It! Freedom Everyday?

I’m Loving It! Freedom Everyday, but it took leaving my abuser to get to this stage.

When I was with him I feared saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, cooking the wrong meal, wearing the wrong clothes, dressing my baby in the wrong clothes, talking to people, meeting up with friends, taking phone calls at home, turning the heating up or putting the fire on, eating things he didn’t think I should eat. You all know what I mean.

Now he is no longer in my life I can do as I please without worrying about what he thinks.

My ex absolutely hated helping other people. (Detail removed by Moderator), he wouldn’t do anything for anybody unless he benefitted from it in some way too, so he hated me helping other people and it caused so many arguments. He saw my kindness and offers to help people as a weakness and that ‘people would take advantage of me’ if I didn’t stand up for myself. He just actually hated my time being spent on anyone else but him.

Now I am doing voluntary work for different organisations and I’m in my element – God, how he’d hate that!

So what do you want for your one life?

Life with him?
Life without him?

If it’s what I think you want then work towards that goal bit by bit and you will find your way to it.

[nbumblebee]

Everything you described here is me is my life apart from the leaving bit, yet I still cant see it as the A word.
You have a beautiful way with words. Thanks for sharing this. X

[Hereforhelp]

How wonderful you are volunteering WTH, I am working on my confidence to volunteer next year, excited and scared.
Life is starting to get better and better the longer we are zero contact (my 2 are teenagers and made their decision not to see their dad..phew and thank f**k for that! I didn’t want him near them.
Great Post ❤️

[Beforeimetyou]

I wish I had your strength. I am sat here every day wishing for a free life from him. Everything I do is wrong and he will do nothing for me unless it benefits him. As he says nobody would want me and I believe it who would want this broken women. My kids are my life, he does nothing for them but I know he wouldn’t go down without a fight if I was to leave. I am scared he will fight till I have no contact with them and my babies need me I would rather stay so I can be in their life’s 🙁

[StrongLife]

So true.

I’ve volunteered myself- some of the volunteer work has been completely out of my field. It was different.
Happiness is all that matters.

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